Recently I visited a lovely little shopping village about an hour from where I live. It has boutique shops and galleries, bakeries and restaurants, plus walking paths and even a Victorian-styled gazebo. I went there primarily to see one artist’s gallery whose work I had seen before and was intrigued by. And he was in residence that day so I had the pleasure of meeting him. We had a lively chat and I walked out of his studio with a big grin on my face and a bucket load of inspiration in my belly.
It was with that positive, and without a doubt mischievous, energy that I walked into a candle shop with the intent of hopefully adding to my candle inventory. I had only been in the shop but a few nano-seconds when I came across a series of “inspirational” phrases painted onto thin pieces of white wood. Most of the phrases I had seen or heard before. And while they may inspire most folks…for me, they seemed commonplace. Especially after my recent ever-so-charming, and provocative, chat with my new artist buddy.
Then I saw it:
Women who behave rarely make history.
I am not kidding when I say I laughed out loud. A true raucous guffaw. I looked up to see the shop owner sporting a classic Cheshire Cat grin. I held up the block of wood and said “I absolutely love this one.” She replied by saying it was her personal favorite as well. I asked her if she minded if I took a photo of it, and she was kind enough to allow me to do so.
After I made my candle purchase and was sitting in the gazebo taking in the scenery, I started to think about that phrase. And maybe it was because of my experiences so far that day in that quaint shopping village that my mind wandered as it did. But I began to think about what it means to “behave”. And not just for women.
Now I’m not saying we shouldn’t be able to move about in polite society as needed. Hey, my mamma done taught me my manners. And I know how to be proper when a situation calls for me to do so.
But I’ve learned that we cannot forget to break outside of our own boxes. Follow our own paths. Live by our own own rules. And be true to ourselves. Regardless of what other people may think.
We cannot live our lives through other people. Make other people’s opinion and their desires more important than our own. Because if we do, we are not truly living. We are only existing. And if we don’t take care of ourselves first, how can we ever expect to be good for the people we care about?
And I don’t know about you, but I intend to continue to live my life. Every single nano-second I am gifted with on this planet.
Falls under the category of “Make Your Own History”.